The escort and erotic labor community uses a unique set of terms and abbreviations to communicate clearly, safely, and discreetly. These escort terms aren’t just casual slang—they support boundaries, promote mutual respect, and ensure that both providers and clients understand one another. Whether you’re new to the industry or simply want to communicate better, this guide is here to help.
Why Language Matters in the Industry
Words carry weight. Understanding escort terminology helps clients engage respectfully and allows sex workers—especially queer and gender-diverse providers—to describe their services with clarity. In a space where safety and consent are critical, knowing the correct terms reduces confusion and stigma.Common Escort Terms and Abbreviations
| Term | Meaning |
|---|---|
| BBBJ | Bare Back Blow Job (oral sex without a condom) |
| BBBJTC | Bare Back Blow Job To Completion |
| CBJ | Covered Blow Job (oral sex with a condom) |
| CIM | Cum In Mouth |
| CIMWS | Cum In Mouth With Swallow |
| COF | Cum On Face |
| COB | Cum On Body |
| DATY | Dining At The Y (oral sex on a woman) |
| DATO | Dining At The Orifice (rimming/analingus) |
| DFK | Deep French Kissing |
| GFE | Girlfriend Experience – emotional connection, intimacy, kissing |
| PSE | Porn Star Experience – more explicit, intense service |
| OWO | Oral Without (a condom) |
| FS | Full Service (includes penetrative sex) |
| FBSM | Full Body Sensual Massage |
| HJ | Hand Job |
| MSOG | Multiple Shots on Goal (multiple orgasms) |
| Greek | Anal Sex |
| French | Oral Sex |
| Spanish | Penis rubbed between breasts |
| Italian | Penis rubbed between buttocks |
| Rimming | Oral stimulation of the anus |
| DP/DDP | Double Penetration / Double Digit Penetration |
| FTM/MTF | Female-to-Male / Male-to-Female Trans Person |
| SW | Sex Worker |
| Online Only | Provider only offers services virtually (e.g., cam, OnlyFans) |
Gender Identity & Inclusive Language
- Cisgender: Someone whose gender identity matches their sex assigned at birth
- Trans / Transgender: A person whose gender identity does not match their assigned sex
- Non-Binary / Genderqueer: Gender identities outside the male/female binary
- Femme / Masculine-Presenting: Descriptions of outward gender expression
- Mx: A gender-neutral honorific
Client and Provider Slang
- John / Punter: Slang for a client
- Dom / Dominatrix: Someone who takes a dominant role in BDSM scenes
- Cougar: A mature woman attracted to younger men
- Happy Ending: Massage that concludes with sexual release
- Sugar Baby / Sugar Daddy: A financially supportive relationship that often includes intimacy
Industry-Related Legal & Activist Terms
- Decriminalization: Removing criminal penalties for sex work
- Legalization: Making sex work legal but with strict government regulation
- FOSTA/SESTA: U.S. laws that harmed online safety for sex workers
- SWERF: Feminist who opposes sex work under the guise of “empowerment”
- TERF: Feminist who excludes trans women from their ideology
Terms You Should Not Use Unless You’re a Sex Worker
Some words are stigmatizing, demeaning, or simply inappropriate when used by those outside the sex industry. Avoid these unless you are reclaiming them as a worker yourself:- Prostitute: Associated with criminalization and stigma
- Hooker / Whore / Harlot: Misogynistic and degrading slurs
- Working Girls / Call Girls / Girls: Infantilizing and dismissive of gender diversity
- Hoe / Heaux / Thot: Should only be used by Black sex workers within their cultural context
